Determining A Child’s Natural Giftings
Updated: Feb 15
I ended the last article by stating that training up a parent’s child according to the natural bent and giftings that he or she possesses is important. Proverbs chapter 22 verse 6 tells us to train up a child in the way he or she should go, then when they are older, they will not depart from that way. The problem often is how to determine what way our children should go.
We have four children, two boys and two girls. What is amazing to me is that all four are different in personality and natural abilities. We discovered that there are some clues that arise as to their natural abilities. These clues will be comprised by their personality, natural leanings, and reactions to different situations, as well as observing the tasks that they can do well and those that they cannot do well. Let me explain.
Physically, we have two children who are built like my side of the family and two who are like my wife’s side of the family. Our side tends to be smaller boned, slender, and athletically agile. My wife’ side tend to be stocker, thick boned and the males tend to be physically strong rather than quick and agile. I have one daughter who has a mild personality while the other tends to be bold and forward. I have one son who is an analytical researcher while the other is a tactile learner and highly mechanical. Both sons are good deal makers. However, there are also some similarities among them, because they all have the same parents. For instance, all four have good music abilities.
When children are very young, they inspect everything and try everything. They do need protection, though, so that they do not try things that are dangerous. For example, kids will sometimes want to stick things in an electrical outlet to see what happens. This is obviously dangerous and a child should be prevented from doing so. During this time of experimenting, they are learning very fast. However, the fastest way they learn is by imitation. They learn speech, behaviors and mannerism by imitating their parents and older siblings. This is why the eldest child will learn nearly all things from his or her parents while the others will learn some from siblings, as well.
This learning process is especially true of moral truths. For example, if the parents are open and honest with each other and demonstrate loving negotiation and resolution of disagreements on a daily basis, the children will grow up learning how to do that. Children will fight and argue when growing up, but will eventually follow that example. This is due to observation, as well as being taught how to act properly. If one or more of the parents are not honest or do not allow for certain subjects to be openly discussed and agreed upon, this is the way the children will generally learn to act.
Children will also often imitate parents in developing natural skills. A father who is a mechanic or carpenter will usually have one or more children with similar natural skills. Sometime these skills will pass from one of the grandparents or through the mother of the family. If the father takes the time to foster the child with these skills, the child will often be better at it as an adult than the father was. The same is true with the mother teaching skills she has to a child who shows aptitude in that same area. The aptitude can be observed often in the child’s desires to do certain things. An observant parent will notice these things and help the child develop them.
The next thing that is important is for children to be allowed to grow in these skills and talents while in school. This will depend on the attitude of the school and its teachers. Some school settings are a one-size-fits-all setting where all are expected to operate in a certain skill set whether the child is gifted in those areas or not. Yet, it does not occur to most parents to look into this area when choosing a school for their children to attend. Some of this may be due to the fact that those parents grew up on that system and have not seen any other options in operation.
One nice thing about Parallel Hope School, Inc. is that the school’s staff has determined to be of service to parents and students so as to encourage the students to grow according to the way that they learn, utilizing these natural aptitudes. This enables the students to learn more effectively because the teaching will be geared to their learning style, not in a one-size-all system. This gives both the students and their parents greater satisfaction as their children grow and mature into responsible adults.